Find someone who is available to you and successful. I knew going into this it would be difficult, so I've braced myself, but I'd be lying if I didn't say there's a lot of disappointment that comes along with the relationship. Consider a mix of activities that are inexpensive, and allow you to talk and learn about one another.
I think my husband would do okay with the loneliness - just like I do. After moving in with him it has become painfully obvious I have a lot of personal improvements to make to meet his minimum expectations as a wife and mother. Be direct and get your needs met. And sometimes I think we equate easiness with happiness. Your mids is still young. I wanted very much to make it work with us, and was willing to compromise in areas that I normally wouldn't.
It's also possible that deep down she's like many of us here, and her shelf will break and she'll want out. Most of us were Mormons and one point, many of us were even TBMs. I used to be religious when I was a kid. How long did you date him and put up with that. Please see above link for full rules. I think a lot of people just yell run whenever this topic comes up and like you I think that's unfair. As a general authority I knew, now deceased, told me in the mid-eightiesвIf you find a good man who is not LDS, marry him. While Scientology is way worse hopefully the parallels will get her thinking. Too bad she couldn't handle the guilt and remorse. Cousin the same age who just got married has known her husband 6 months.
Just an idea, I have no idea what would actually work for her. I'd rather marry a doctor and let him have a mistress on the side if that means not having to worry about money. All I can think about is the fact that his schedule means that I will have to be the one to shoulder all the parenting and household responsibilities. Can you live your whole life with a husband you doesnt or never will believe in the mormon church. He has no vices, is the happiest person I know, is a healthy role model of manhood for my teen daughter and loves me to the depth of his soul. Maybe it won't be a big deal. I was recently married to my husband in the Twin Falls, Idaho temple for time and all eternity.