But I have no idea how much of his lack of contact is actually due to him being busy or if that's just an excuse to not commit. Love is a relation where compromise sacrifices and understanding matters a lot. But he's got to know the aggravation and pain that he likely will face. I married my husband 11 years ago, when he was an undergrad student. As a budding feminist, I left the church in my teens.
But when my oldest daughter hit 12, the lessons started to have one major theme: This is what girls are told should be their primary goal. Mormons love to have fun, but they prefer keeping it clean, respectful, and something that everyone can enjoy. Play with fire if you don't fear getting burned. I believe that we are all on different paths, but that it is possible for us to travel on different paths side-by-side. Yes, those of us in the hospital work longer and harder days than most people with 9 to 5s, but we still have off days. As Joanne mentioned, should you marry interfaith, you will have lots of help from fellow ward members on converting your spouse.
But when my oldest daughter hit 12, the lessons started to have one major theme: This is what girls are told should be their primary goal. My experience with non members has been so much more meaningful and caring. It's not that she doesn't believe you right now, but it is a bone she will never drop. It works, though, because I know that his beliefs have great worth. Good luck to both of you on working this out, and if you decide that interfaith marriage is something you can handle and your gentlemen turn out to be the right men for you, then welcome to the club. I have been with him through medical school and residency for internal medicine, which was tough, but manageable.
A couple of things I run into most is that people assume I am also Mormon. God be with you all. We need to believe fully and then we make choices, not the other way around. Thank you so much for this blog.