I am a 47 yr old Mom of a 4 yr old child with special needs who is completely alone to care for my child a good part of the time. They therefore have a high standard to work toward. It has been a couple of months since I have seen him or even really talked to him. It is the greatest sadness of her life. Take issues as they arise, rather than throwing away what could be a good experience for you and her based off of what might happen. She is passionate about it. Why not ask him where he wants the relationship to go.
The woman's role is to grow up, marry a worthy priesthood holder, and have a lot of kids. I'll keep digging through it, but there's a lot there and I'd like some suggestions to narrow my search. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. It's a foolish dream I suppose. I have been looking for a support group on facebook but couldn't find one so I have created one. I'm glad you both have found a way to get past the incredible forces that are working against you. She might not even be living according to the moral standards of the Church. Mormonism is simply too unaccepting of mixed relationships.
Hopefully this helped a little bit. Be open to the wisdom the Spirit will share. I want so much to be supportive, but since my family is gone, I find myself afraid that I will come off as needy if I ask for attention or more affection. She's admitted to loving me before but she has problems and issues with what she wants. He was gone by 6: I was left to manage the house, the finances, the kids' schedules and what little time was left over for my own interests. Adore them and make them feel loved and appreciated. I understand the sacrifice that it takes to become a doctor, but I am not sure if he does. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. You should expect that this will define your relationship with her.
However, if you are a Catholic guy dating a Mormon girl, then remember that her parents may be averse to it. Their son grew up to become a temple president. I never really thought about the sacrifices the wife of a doctor must make. When I was a teen, my first boyfriend was a convert and people would comment on that instead of how nice he was to me. So for anyone reading this - I completely agree with all your advice!. Such beliefs make the girls confident about being women. At parties, they drink soda and play board games. If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim.
