The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. Think of every possible scenario you can think of. It is hard work. I stopped working after our 2nd child because his hours were so irregular and there was no predictability to his schedule. What's hard for us, is he doesn't understand why I gladly accept extra hours and work and community service projects, which sometimes impinge on the little time we do have to spend together. She is going to be taught for the rest of her life in the church the importance of missionary work and eternal families, and Priesthood in the home. Her home time is exclusively for the kids and paper work.
Weirdly, one of the best sexes I ever had was with a lesbian who felt remorse and as though she had betrayed her fellow lesbians. Sorry man, but if I knew what I know now I would have cut my losses. I knew a woman who married a man who converted to the church and she spent the rest of their married life telling him he was not good enough. I'd suggest the essays. Either you are just fun for now or she wants to change you. Now those are not the problems in my head anymore, whats in my head is how arewe goin to deal with this, ive told her sometimes u wont have anytime for me nor for your kids if we decide to have kids you wont be at the holidays nothing like that and she is always tryin to see everything positive and tells me dont worry ill schedule myself, and im like baby you will not be able to schedule urself your life would be in a hospital. He was not a prominent man in the church.
Your husbands love you, and love that you are able to do what they cannot. It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. It is much easier for the Holy Ghost to influence good people. Do not make anything risque public. I read every page of the CES letter, and it's definitely convinced me this entire religion is fabricated, but I'm sure she wouldn't even read it much less consider its points seriously. Only the racist comments about why it was enacted have been disavowed. It's a less common occurrence, but it happens.
He had a nervous breakdown- panic attack by 10am. As an atheist with Buddhist undertones who married a non-practicing, god-believing Mormon at the height of his questioning, I find this so interesting to me. A patient of his went into labor, was having a rough time and he spent the next 32 hours at the hospital. That my heavenly father hates my decision to marry my husband. But I do believe in modern prophets and that God gives no commandment that is not for our own happiness.