If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. However, you might be lucky to not have the experience I did. I wouldn't wish this shit on my enemy. The first vision is something she taught endlessly as a missionary - same with the Book of Mormon translation.
She honestly believes that she has the truth, and that if you are exposed to it enough you will recognize that. Eventually I hope each wards get to a point where they know that as a ward family our job is simply to make sure that each person, member or non member knows that when they enter the house of the Lord, they are loved. She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her.
He's usually trying to catch up on sleep working on a presentation, patient notes, etc I know communication is key, but it's helpful to know that others are going through the same experience. And don't get hung up on all the "lofty doc" stuff. That response made her very happy. If you don't want to give up, then don't. Tears in my eyes after reading this.
I decided that if the church taught the general principle that couples should be married in the temple and that was not possible for me if I married this girlthen I should see if my choice would be an exception to the rule. Why Mormons don't hate gay people. But God works in mysterious ways.