We are at odds about this constantly. But she understands that I am committed to the Gospel, and will never leave it either. This means that she will probably be dating others at the same time as you. From reading the above posts from previous posters, please keep in mind that while it helps to read and learn from each others' experiences as we are all in the same boat -- we must also make the distinction between someone's occupation and their personality or character. I think our entire family feels the loneliness including himself. Is this a red flag or are we both just being stubborn.
But you are setting yourself up to leave the Church more easily, and even if you agree the children will be raised Mormon, your kids will likely not continue to participate in the Church as adults. We have discussed marriage and kids but I dont want to live a life of lonliness I'm responding to the comment on April 11, - I posted on April 3, Sounds like you are going through my same fears and concerns. She might not be keeping the Word of Wisdom, living according to the Law of Chastity, or attending church regularly. These same principles have helped build strong, successful religious communities for thousands of years. Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl. In childhood, that includes the majority. He made a big deal out of my birthday, holidays, etc. I still love my Heavenly Father and my Savior.
I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you. If they believe their religion, they will ultimately cause you pain and disappointment. I really like this girl but, is Mormonism so toxic that I should just sever the relationship before it gets serious. I look at my single male doctor colleagues and some of them are sweet and honestly looking for a connection.
And I really agree that in any marriage no matter what the professions, each spouse wants to come to a welcoming and communicative environment, they don't want bottled up tense frustration. If you are willing to wait, then well and good; otherwise, it is best to move on. It does kick your butt!. It can burn, and it can burn you hardcore. His job prevents you much access to him. I asked, he refused. I have so often heard wow you married a doctor The truth is I will always come second to his job and he will never know how lonely I am for him to put me first. I do hope I'm able to make the necessary sacrifices to make my marriage work. Communication is crucial, and even if we don't see each other for several days at a time, it's important to be on the same page. He will not be permitted to bless the child in front of the ward, for instance, so you will have to choose to forego that ritual or find someone else to stand in for the father, which he may not be comfortable with.