I have finally realized that the church is fake and I'm so grateful that I got a second chance with this guy. I've luckily broken down my GF's defenses about the church a little bit. You would be her back up plan in case she can't find a guy who is a returned missionary, preferably from a prominent LDS family.
You will always be second place. I am a 47 yr old Mom of a 4 yr old child with special needs who is completely alone to care for my child a good part of the time. I have missed the Church in some ways, and certainly the blessings of a temple marriage. They therefore have a high standard to work toward. Only you will know. Every one thinks I'am a single parent. Love in Different Languages.
I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. The odds are definitely not in OPs favor for something like this working for him. The pressure is mounting for Mormon women to cave in to Western degeneracy, and men are at a loss for what to do about it. This isn't encouraging to me, it's sad. If you care about him, you'll be super understanding, maybe take lunch to him or dinner to the hospital A quick kiss and a thank you may be all you will be able to get. I am so beyond afraid of what lies ahead in terms of residency; the loneliness, missing out on years of family experiences together, raising two kids by myself we have a 1. A good place to go is to a museum, hiking, or to a park.
I've read some of the articles linked to by mormonessays. Of course she won't want to watch something that in her mind attacks her religion. She might be everything you want, but in her eyes you are not what she has been dreaming of her whole life. Love the way you normalize the challenges of being married.