Forty plus years later I met my incredibly wonderful fabulous Mormon husband. They are grown now and serving their country but luckily they still need Mom and Dad sometimes!. This is a very delicate territory, so tread carefully. For me, one of those bouncers is my marriage to the most wonderful woman alive. I can relate to this post. She will never retire. Basically, these are long-distance relationship tricks. If I even mention wanting to talk just about normal life things, I am told not to tilt the balance between problems and fun. Then be clear you will never convert. A good place to go is to a museum, hiking, or to a park.
Don't get her hopes up too much - in return ask her to do something to research your views. The first year is mostly research with regular hours followed by those daunting 3 years. It's an issue I just have to live with if I want to be with him, and I do, so I live with it. No hard feelings, is not his fault, I said yes when he proposed based on the life wee had at that time, my fault for not doing some re search and find out how is really when you are a register or in the training programme. I have two babies, 3 months and 3 years old and I believe they probably think my dr husband is an uncle or a distance relative bc their daddy was away for fellowship for over a yr and now away bc of his job. Helpful way to learn the facts in a fast and funny format. She has opened my eyes to many parts of our national culture that are not in harmony with righteousness. Trust me, I too tried to make it work with my very Mormon also returned missionary ex-girlfriend.
We also struggle with infertility. A lot of shared hobbies, interests, life goals. He came to bed at 1: I don't know if I can make this work. Because if you can't live and let live, you both need to dive deep into this stuff and figure out what you believe and want in your life.
We DO live paycheck to paycheck. If he is luck to be off call during the weekend, I would sleep most of the weekends away to make up the sleep deprivation. He left his practice of many years and started a new one this week. Who knows, but I think it was especially hard for the moms of young men. Honestly, I don't have very good advice, but keep being you and hopefully she won't let her religion blind her like it blinded me. What if you are sexually incompatible. He may never want anything to do with Mormons or the church again.
