Too often, I think, priesthood holders think that being overly controlling, they are simply wielding their authority in the home. I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case. Willl he build resentment at the struggle to get him to change whether real or imagined.
I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine. I take offense to your statement about affairs. Before I proposed, I actually broke up with my partner for a month в mostly due to family pressure. Maybe it was because I was so young when I made the choice, maybe it was because I was the oldest child in an extremely active family with parents that just expected me to be a shining example to the younger kids. Do not expect anything long term. He blames this on his hours for residency, and to be fair they are really long and insane. After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. Adding an interfaith element means you have many more adjustments to make. Needless to say, his top choices were not near my family and friends. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready.
There are other rewards, like him being available during the week or on odd days when other dads aren't, and knowing that we don't have to struggle financially as many of our friends do in this tough economy. Hi there I have been married to a doctor for 16 years, first 10 as an orthopod next 6 as a plastic surgeon and still working towards the dream of a big house to show for all this hard work. Only idiots are unfriendly to non-Mormon spouses. My husband had quite a late start in his career; he will be almost 40 by the time he starts residency so I feel we are already way behind in that sense, but also he has had a very hard time getting into residency as he went to med school outside the US. Would I like to have him by my side. Marry a person based on his character, not his religion.
Mormon women are more likely to date outside of the religion than men, but also very unlikely to convert to a different religion. And there's a story I'm going to look again for too. I am so happy to not be working in the medical field any more. The fact she's dating you while you aren't a Mormon is at least a sign of hope.