There will be sacrifices but I am hopeful. I alway understood and supported him so it was my way of being useful in the world, too. This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult. I wana get married but im thinkin wether it wud be wise to get married after i finish studyin med. Indeed, it is the loneliness and the lack of time to have intimacy or feel connected with one another that scares me for our future.
Hopefully you two will be on the same page and can be open with each other so that you have matching expectations. About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church. She has encouraged me to read LDS. I'd suggest taking issue with things that specifically bug you the most. As a docs wife we have to deal with all sorts, and prayer has often been my lifeline. This can be done. As for having children, expect to be a single parent. I have been on both sides of this situation, and I know how much it sucks to feel like you're doing everything you can to make it as easy and convenient as possible for the other person to spend time with you, but theyre still not seeing you all that much, and you think they should be able to give you a little more. Do you drink alcohol.
So if you are caffeine junky, be sure that you can adjust to and accept your date's beliefs before going on a date. I'm glad you both have found a way to get past the incredible forces that are working against you. I would never give up on him because he got nobody else. That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the church, who fully deserve membership. All people see is the money and that's it. My religious faith saved my sanity but I still worry. Is it wrong not to. The Mormon culture has mastered the forked tongue. He's now in his 3rd year of a 4 year residency program and is hoping to do a 2 year fellowship next. Because I have a husband that is not a member I have a quasi like status in the ward.
What upsets me most is that he didn't realize it was my birthday, or a big one and then that his reaction was to get defensive about his plans rather than offer an alternative for celebrating with me. But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. Sorry man, but if I knew what I know now I would have cut my losses. She views patriarchy as a quality of God. That was enough for him.