Right now she won't even watch a movie. Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over. And though most people think I'm the difficult one in the relationship they don't realize he is of stronger opinions he just let's me take the heat from outsiders. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. I google searched for support with tears running down my face. I feel like this pressure of finding a residency has already taken a toll in our relationship and somewhat "controlled" us for so long that I am already so tired of it.
Honestly I'd let things keep going. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. I married a recent convert girl в she may as well have been a nonmember в and less than a year later we got an annulment. My boyfriend and I are both in medical school and it is so difficult to manage a relationship while surviving the class load. We are here looking for the other people who live this life and understand how difficult and, at times, painful this career is with which to live since the majority of people think like you until they see our families in action. Eventually I hope each wards get to a point where they know that as a ward family our job is simply to make sure that each person, member or non member knows that when they enter the house of the Lord, they are loved.
Now after reading this blog I feel like I made the right choice. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Much of it rang true back when my spouse was in med school, internship and residency. He never has time for me. It is positively shocking. Anyway, I'm sad and disappointed and I know that it will be my job to keep the marriage together. Every new set will see your man with fresh and hungry eyes as a potential golden contact. It will definitely take patience to work through any of this with her but it sounds like she's a pretty awesome person. We have been together for almost 6 years, so I'm well aware of what I got into, but it can still be tough. Other lazy Mormon girls turn feminist, many thousands of them.
Notify me of new comments via email. I have no sympathy for people like you. I feel very sad sometimes but I try to stay strong. Doesn't leave many options here though but better than constantly having them push the church on you until you either give in and convert or break up. It seems like mormons in particular are even more crazy than the majority of crazy religious people, and the manipulation and treatment of people who wish to think for themselves and challenge their beliefs is really frightening.