I'm on the same page as you. You can't reason with fanatics, and you got one. He's usually trying to catch up on sleep working on a presentation, patient notes, etc I know communication is key, but it's helpful to know that others are going through the same experience.
Instead, I found someone outside the cult and we've been married almost 32 years She's looking for a dedicated priesthood holder who will take her to the temple. My dad was in the bishopric for most of my childhood, and I was never the person you describe here. In retrospect, I believe I was being led to my current spouse. I married outside the church and have no regrets. In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. Yes, talk talk talk about everything yoiu can think of, but beyond that I would suggest pre-marital counseling from people knowledgeable in each tradition at play this will probably take two different counselors, who might be faith-based.
Try a variety of dates. I know "Meet the Mormons" isn't what I'm looking for I went through a very similar experience earlier this year and the community was extremely helpful. Deep down I know he could pass on that stuff, but never the less it seems like a necessary inconvenience to attend these events. I'm sorry you may be hearing a lot of negativity from us. Most of us were Mormons and one point, many of us were even TBMs.
Is your mind made up and you want justifying support. And everyone always asks why you are out and about alone. And once you are done with those, ask about social issues and where she stands. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. I am hopeful and do feel some healing. The two of us are going on an overnight this weekend.