Should I consider giving up my PhD plans, take up whatever job I can based on my commitments or I should look for somebody with whom my profession is more compatible. I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue the relationship, but I'd only recommend marrying her if she leaves the church because she discovers it's not true. This isn't encouraging to me, it's sad. It sounds like if we were to have a happy ending, it wouldn't be quite so happy because of how we raise our kids or how the rest of the family would treat me forever We'll discuss it again in more depth now that I have a few specific concerns about what our future together might look like. This is not about either of you individually. If you marry her, you're marrying into a cult, a mild cult as far as cults go, but a cult nonetheless. Im sooooo happy i've found this blog!!. This insecurity is at the root of the princess syndrome. Doctors are gift of God but when u marry, family too is important. This is because they gave up the structure of what made them desirable in the first place.
I've been thinking more about your situation and another thing came to mind. Hi all, It's really interesting to read all of your experiences and how you've worked through the difficult times. Still, I would be interested to hear your perspective and that of your readers.
That was my experience. Please realize I know how the church works, was extremely active and raised good kids. They know that they are the best. Sadly, the general consensus of "convert or nope out" sounds like what will end up happening. I love talking religion with him and I have never pressured him to change his habits or anything else about him. Thank you so much, L. I look back the 13 years with such sadness and loneliness; I was extremely busy and had no time for myself or others. It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. My husband and I have been married for about 4 years and together since we were undergrads, before he chose medicine as his profession. My wife expects me to understand her situation but whiles I am willing to understand, I wish she would make some effort to etch out some quality time for us when she is not stressed out and grumpy and irritable.
I'm engaged to a med student we met in undergrad 2 years ago and I've watched him go from playful college kid to serious med student. But he does want to get married to and to have kids. Over the span of the last year though, things have slowly changed. RUN like the wind. Physical and logistic issues make the "wonderful ideas and alternative ideas "impossible.
