Oh, and perhaps you're thinking to yourself - that woman needs to talk to him. And you will be shocked. You've all been so helpful.
First, my dad was a wonderful husband to my mother the greatest mom on earthand a wonderful father to me. If it seems one is unable to find a spouse within the church, which commandment do you keep. As a matter of fact, you can begin here. There's no way a TBM is dating you if she knows about your Lucifer kick. She will never retire. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity.
Nothing fixed that issue in me as fast as being almost inseparably bound to a woman that pushed back and kicked screaming against the pricks every time I wanted to make some sort of spiritual effort. The scriptures say that one of the main reasons good people don't join the church is because they just haven't been introduced to it. I don't see anywhere in your post where there is a complete commitment. We have been married a mere 3. Because if you can't live and let live, you both need to dive deep into this stuff and figure out what you believe and want in your life.
It's a less common occurrence, but it happens. I do my best, I accepted him knowing the stress on his career, knowing that it isn't easy. He probably hates even the memory of me for getting him in that stupid church. I can honestly say we have grown apart thru the years. This is the rule rather than the exception. If you marry him, you are committing to accepting him without the church and all that this entails. I knew a guy who joined the Mormon church because he thought it would help him date a certain Mormon girl, a girl who refused to date non-Mormons.