As a parent, we hope our children will make life choices that will give them the greatest chance of happiness. I'd at least insist that at 12 the kids can choose to disaffiliate. Not every LDS person does, unfortunately. But wait a minute. Being married to a doctor is no walk in the park.
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Be prepared for divorce. I don't think anyone here intended a dismissal of the girl as a human being by stating such. I can honestly say it has been the worst decision of my life.
I'll tell her that we are strictly friends for now on. So if you feel like you both are getting serious, then talk to your girlfriend in time and sort this issue out. From her summary, he just did not understand her dilemma at all.
It MAY be true that she will be miserable with him and make him miserable with her. You have to come second right now. I decided that if the church taught the general principle that couples should be married in the temple and that was not possible for me if I married this girlthen I should see if my choice would be an exception to the rule. Someone or something always has his attention and focus. I grew up believing that when, where, and by what authority I was married were equally important to whom I married. Unless you have those same understandings, I'm sad to say the relationship is almost certainly doomed.