And occasionally I have queried the wisdom of that choice. December 17, I figured it might be fun to update you kind folks on what happened. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them.
If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. But I also know that He loves us so much that He would never take away our ability to choose for ourselves. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. My husband and I have been married for about 4 years and together since we were undergrads, before he chose medicine as his profession.
Is there even any sex at all in this fantasy. I even had someone tell me I should know better than to marry a nomo. Do you see yourself marrying this person if marriage is something you are interested in for the future. They will teach the girls that sex is bad and wrong, which is something they will have trouble putting behind them when they eventually do get married. Do you want a home that is focused on the church with all of the blessings there of or a home that is devoid of the blessings of the priesthood, Sundays without your husband at your side at church with your children celebrating in the gospel. Did U have sex with her yet.
That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the church, who fully deserve membership. Trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone at home or attempting to date someone you meet while on mission are both distractions. God will help you both work this out. The Church encourages you to use dating as an opportunity to show your respect not just for others, but for yourself. You aren't engaged or married or anything, you can't just know that she won't see the light and remain crazy Mormon forever. April 05, There are ways to avoid blue balls ya know. If your spouse believes in infant baptism, will you allow the children to have that. Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over.