Perhaps I will have to start one. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. I really hadn't considered a lot of the points people have brought up. Also not one Nickel will be tithed out of any shared funds. My advice would be to become as familiar as possible with her schedule, and then plan activities that will allow you both to get to know each other better, avoid movies. Within a cultural group marriage is hard. Honestly, I have given up on lds men as a single 25 year old. Does it mostly depend on his specialty or just how he prioritizes things.
Somehow snow days when everyone else is off, I feel like my husband is the only one working I know there are many but it is very hard. But what I discovered surprised me. Having married over the course of my life not one but two wonderful non-Mormon men one Jewish and one low-church ProtestantI can say that my own spirituality has been profoundly deepened and enriched by the perspective that these two God-fearing and spiritually mature people offered me, and by my participation in the observances of their traditions. Up to this point, she has just assumed that all atheists are innately evil people. Learned by me in time and tears. Will you be open to me teaching my children my athiest point of view. I am dating a wonderful man, amazing. However, a few months before her exams she suddenly said that she didn't think we were right for each other and broke up with me. There is a difference between "I wouldn't want to be with someone who worked these hours forever" and "I am really unhappy and will be unhappy for the next three years. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice.
Secondly, if he's still in residency, he has to prevail and give it his all. No one, except someone who has been Mormon can understand how deep the hooks are sunk into the Mormon psyche. That will most likely be the deal breaker for her. You are brave and good people and seem to be raising wonderful children who will be lights for everyone with whom they come in contact.
So, guess whatв We stopped. It has been closed. Narcissism, androgyny, obsession with pop cultureвthe problems with Western women go on and on. I also didn't want to push him away by overwhelming him with talks about commitment when he's already stressed. This one is different.