It seems like mormons in particular are even more crazy than the majority of crazy religious people, and the manipulation and treatment of people who wish to think for themselves and challenge their beliefs is really frightening. I am married to a DH and what helps me the most is knowing my whole life revolves around him and medicine always come first. All you have to do is be honest about your username here and you'll never see her again. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. And there is NO taking them off to wear a sleeveless shirt, cute sun dress or regular, girl-length shorts in the summer.
I have been happily married to a non-mormon for 20 years. That being said, we have built something beautiful and good, have modeled loving responsibility and accountability to our kids, and I am certain I am with the man God chose for me. Ultimately, it comes down to this. Post was not sent - check your email addresses. You're walking into a den of crazy, tbm bishop's daughter, I hate to say it but you should really be contemplative about what you're stepping into. See if you can become involved only if it follows your strengths and desires. I'll bring up some CES letter issues, let her know why I wouldn't want my children raised like this, and we'll see what happens. Ive realized for the most part they are just too proudful and do not treat women very get. The envy of all of our friends.
I have had to compromise more often than I would have liked. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. I hope it all works out for you.
Two very simple things that require so much effort and understanding. I hated it so much, in fact, that I ran off to China. He says that I should be happy that he is giving me all the comforts of life. Jack is right about the demographics. When we obsess over it we start acting like a customer in a clothing store wondering what he or she will look like if they wear that particular wardrobe. I was shocked how much the stress, lack of sleep, etc. There will be pressure to go to church, marry in the temple, Yada Yada You will want to make sure you're ready to battle this for years, maybe a lifetime. Would she be okay with never being married in the temple.