He might be a doc by day but when he's not at the hospital he's a regular guy just like anyone else. I wouldnt encourage my kids to date a mormon. But I wish he would call or text me or maybe make a sweet gesture every once in awhile. It won't be easy. My husband is on call today, gone the entire weekend. I eventually found out that she did not pass the exams and have requested that I don't contact her again. With that being said, I have long considered myself just a tad outside super TBM since we watched Game of Thrones, drank energy drinks, and occasionally stayed in my running clothes sans garments to do yard work. Affection will come and go based on our attitudes, and will not carry through the rough spots в married in the Church or outside. Mormonism is simply too unaccepting of mixed relationships. Having seen many examples of the disaster it becomes when a member spouse pushes, coerces, ultimatums the non-member spouse into being baptized, I have very assiduously steered clear of those methods from the start.
They have money for nannies, trips, vacation homes, their children go to the finest colleges, etc. Honestly, the bulk of what I did was pretty routine and uninteresting. It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people. I know a non-Mormon guy who married a Mormon woman and has kept her beautiful and desirable, by encouraging her religious involvement, even though he avoided Mormonism himself. You just can't imagine the heap o' hurt you're potentially setting yourself up for.
His single doctor friends have so much more time and money to spend on lavish overseas holidays and recreational activities, while every spare moment the husband has to spend at home, helping with the children and all the responsibilities that entails. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. That's probably true, and that would be a great thing for her, but they wouldn't see it that way. Their values and the values of popular western culture are wildly disparate, which can be tough for them to navigate early in life. It really can be that simple. My boyfriend is in his second year of residency, and I'm still adjusting to this new situation. Every bishop, new set of missionaries, home teacher, etc. Actually, Mormon families are shrinking, just like those outside the Church, but they will always be larger than families outside Mormondom. I wanted to be able to fully share my faith with my spouse, but this expectation was now up in the air.
Have you created your Facebook Club yet. We still hadn't had the "are we official. Accept yourself, and feel God accepting you, and everything else will follow. Don't forget too that IF you are successful in turning the lights on and deconverting her, the family would resent you the rest of their lives.