No easy answers here. Dont aggressively try to destroy her faith but bring up philosophical thinking points. The ideal, in my opinion, is that she discovers what we all know about the lies the church tells her. I have a friend who identifies as bi-gendered and often feels most comfortable in femme. I can no longer spend more than 30 minutes in the sun. And I really agree that in any marriage no matter what the professions, each spouse wants to come to a welcoming and communicative environment, they don't want bottled up tense frustration.
He apologized up and down. Distance is hard, being away from family is tough, but in a way having only "each other" made our marriage so strong. For our differences in work field I am from non medical background we stay in different cities and hardly get to spend quality time together. And if he loves you as much as you love him.
Life is not perfect. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately. I married a person, not a religion. Dating a dr is hard. Marriage to the wrong person is extremely difficult. The thing about General Authorities and General Conference, is that they give general counsel that is meant for the general population. However, he was often in a horrible mood after long shifts.
This includes both asking and offering assistance. Earlier I mentioned "Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff. I wish I had not ignored the signs whiles we dated but now I am out of energy. The history of racism and violence is upsetting.