Anyway, I am not sure what the future holds for us, but it was nice to find your blog and see other couples dealing with the same challenges. But the issue of marrying a non-member raises two fundamental problems: That idea seems so contrary to the nature of God. Not one little bit.
There will be sacrifices but I am hopeful. I explained to her that from my perspective, if a religious person does something good, you can't trust them because they're doing it for the wrong reasons: When an atheist does something good, you know they're not doing it for any reason other than to help someone else. Unless you convert she won't marry you, plain and simple. If this is his first year, I believe he has at least two more years, possibly as many as four or five. It would be foolish to acquiesce a Mormon girl to drink coffee. It also seems like he's into it based on how he acts around me and the things he says. But, I am a 3rd year medical student and my fiance is a 2nd year medical student. Yes, it is bad.
I can handle a lot of daily mindless, nonverbal things, like cuddling for a bit before bed, but phone calls and even texting can be exhausting in a way that is very difficult to explain. I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM girl, so maybe my perspective will be of help to you. I have been reading this blog for a while now but this is the first time I have felt I needed to add my two cents in. We still went on dates when we could, but it became less and less often. Basically nothing like reality. Not the end of the world.
I'd have plenty if we divorced. I also just care about him enough and admire his reasons for becoming a doctor that I'm willing to make sacrifices so that his life is easier. This sub is a great place to do that. I am giving him all of those things. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. His pager will become your most despised enemy. Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. I know many other nurses that also married young docs, only to have the marriage fail. I am emotionally mentally and heartily attached to him. He's so used to me saying that I sometimes wonder why he even has to ask.