I've done the pre-med, med school, residency, etc. You know what the official line of the church is, and what bishops and stake presidents are likely to say. Learn from Experienced Professionals. So you stay calm, stay pleasant, and try not to let it eat you alive.
And I learned how freeing that is. I knew a couple in my last ward who got married in their mid 20's. But is it the path that will make you the happiest. Either way, if you have kids and you don't convert, she will divorce you and take your kids away from you and you will be shunned from her community. I had tears in my eyes and goosebumps while reading it. As a parent, we hope our children will make life choices that will give them the greatest chance of happiness. A wonderful resource tool with great updates. I don't want to give up as I think it is still the stress of the exams that is motivating her response and that given time, we could work things out and have a very special and loving relationship. Trust yourself, trust God and enjoy the beautiful relationship that you have. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you.
It wouldn't be as often as from someone with an ordinary job and schedule, but it would happen. He has changed a lot throughout this process, but I don't know what he will be like once we are finished. You are looking for evidence that a. He has spent years building his practice and is a busy, highly successful pediatric surgeon who is compassionate and respected by everybody, but I think by nature, it is hard for him to be empathetic or to relate to more personal issues. Are you ok with waiting for that. Be prepared for divorce. Better to now what you're going into in a relationship with a doctor or would-be-doctor. Now, they are limited to only 80 hours per week. But please also know that the people who love you are hoping you make the right decision because they want you to be happy.
She will insist on raising her children in the Mormon church. Keep in touch, keep it light and understand he is under a lot of pressure right now. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation.